The Guy Code

I personally think that the “guy code” is too strict and should not even exist at all. It is enforce pretty much as soon a boy is born. They are taught to be masculine. Even as a kid boys are told to “man up” or “boys don't cry.” I think this puts too much pressure on them. Guys are not allowed to show their feeling. I think that is one of the dumbest rules there is. People can't just hold in there feelings. Sometimes they just need to let it all out.

For girls there is no code. We can be whoever we want or do whatever we want. We don't have to worry about not being feminine enough. In “Bros before hos: the guy code” by Micheal Kimmel, a woman said she can be Mia Hamm, Britney Spears, Madame Curie or even Madonna. She said “nobody can tell me what it means to be a woman anymore.” I believe that is true in society today. We can be anything we want whether it's a doctor, a soccer player, a business owner or a teacher. We don't have to be a stay at home mom and do all the cleaning and cooking anymore. Woman don't have to explain or prove themselves when they chose what they want to do so why should men?

Another rule that I think is dumb is the fact that guys have to prove they are a man among other men. Guys should be able to do what they want or be whoever they want. Guys should not have to worry about whether they are being too feminine when they do something. For example if a guy wants to be a nurse then they should be able to without being judged or having to prove they are still masculine. In high school I was on the cheer team and there were a lot of guys on it. Most of them got judges by their friends at first, but then some of them got their friends to join. Once they tried cheer they realized it is not an easy sport. Trying to lift girls in the air and most of the time by yourself is not easy. It takes months of practice and conditioning. I think the fact that they did not care what their friends thought and joined cheer anyways makes them a man.

Lastly, the one rule I think I am most against is the fact that guys are not allowed to be a homosexual. Guys are not allowed to hang out with guys who are gay. If you are called gay, that is considered one of the worst put downs there is. No guy wants to be called gay and I think many guys deny the fact that they are gay until they are older because they are too afraid of what other guys will say. I think that if one of a guys friend say that they are gay, they should still be friends. If they have been friends for a long time then that means they pretty much know everything about each other and I don't think anything should change, but of course it will because that is just how society is. Guys are not allowed to be friends with gay guys. I also think that even if someone is gay they will most likely still like to do “guy” things. I don't think that being gay is a bad thing and that people should stop judging each other. I had a friend who came out and said she was a lesbian. Granted I am a girl and things are different for girls, but I still was friends with her. I didn't care what sexuality she was and I don't think guys should either.